Stages in our Lives
Good morning and welcome to the #weekendcoffeeshare! It’s been cold this week, especially cold for mid-March. I have both Arabica and Robusta coffee for you today! Also decaf, of course. I have some special black tea, a flavored black currant tea and a darjeeling tea. So pour a cup of whatever you want and join me in my writing room!
I have something on my mind that I’ve been thinking a lot about. I’ve been thinking about the stages of our lives and how we pass those different stages. I’m thinking about this as I think I’ve entered a different stage in my life over the last few months. Have any of you ever been aware of entering a completely different stage in your life?
I’m not sure I know exactly what’s caused this…..what can I call it…..revelation to occur, but something has. I find myself wanting to change my life. Not completely change it. I will still be a writer. I will still value my friends. I will still, essentially, be me. But I don’t much like the current version of “me.” I’m tense, stressed, and under constant strain. I don’t have the life I want to have.
As many of you know, I’m going to be moving to Florida on a half-time basis and that is the only thing happening in my life that feels right to me. I feel the need to make a radical change in my life. Florida feels right. I don’t like the commercialized, touristy parts of Florida, but where I am going, it’s “old Florida.” What I want to do is sell my house in Kentucky, and soon, and move to Florida full time. I don’t want to waste any time doing it. The money from the house will be put in the bank. It will not be used to buy a comparable house.
Not only that, but I want to drastically downside. I’m not interested in “stuff” anymore. Almost out of the blue. By stuff, I mean the trappings of prosperity such as furniture, household goods, clothes, and such. Also housing arrangements. I want to live in something very small. I can’t take care of a large place anymore and just don’t want to. I have no interest in anything large. I want a small home, very small, with little in it. I want to be able to walk out my door and to the beach in the morning and not worry about my house or anything in it. I want to buy it with a very little bit of cash.
Have any of you ever felt like this? Am I losing my mind? 🙂
I’m going to accomplish this by first buying something a little larger than we already own in Florida. Not large. Still very small. Maybe under 800 square feet. I want minimalist furniture and little of it. This means selling almost everything I have, which is fine with me. I’ve lost any emotional attachment I had to it. I’ll have to have an antique dealer help me. Until I sell everything, it will be put in storage and sold from there.
I want to be free of the trappings of success and prosperity. I want to be just me, with my family and dog and cat and very little else. I love to write and will write my novel….and another after that….and another after that. I’ll keep up with my blog and write magazine articles. I”ll spend a lot of time enjoying myself on my island in Florida, hopefully entertaining friends occasionally.
Maybe the stress, strain, and worries…..and nightmares……will cease. I hope so.
So come with me on my journey to change my life. It should be interesting and will start very soon.
Thanks for coming to my #weekendcoffeeshare!
The Write Scribe 
I love the idea of a new adventure with less! I hope it brings you so, so much happiness! 😀 I would really love to live on a boat or in a tiny house by the water, but my husband doesn’t much like the idea…unless I can convince him of the fabulousness of the idea, I’ll continue opting for marital bliss over housing bliss…but I just may be able to convince him eventually. 🙂
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Rosemary, I think we all come to a point where all the “stuff” it took us 50 years to collect will now take us 50 years to unload! And we find we just don’t need all that anymore, including all the emotional baggage. I think I have reached an age where I am just thinking about “me” and letting everyone else look out for themselves. At 70 I don’t think I need to be responsible for anyone! Let me know if you find that very small house under 800 square feet. I keep eyeing one down the road from me that looks like a one roomer! Perfect!
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I’m still working on the emotional baggage!
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Stages of life, I am familiar with those feelings of change. I am also familiar with wanting to downsize and simplify life. I tried to convince my husband that we should explore the “tiny house” movement, but that is a bit drastic in his opinion especially with 2 kids and 2 big dogs and perhaps he is right. However, we will go smaller, just not tiny house small yet. So, I certainly don’t think there is anything in the way of “mind loss” involved. We live in a crazy and fast paced life, slowing it down and finding ways to increase our quality time makes so much sense! I am really bad at the “who said it” for my quotes this morning, but this one comes to mind, “A simple life is a beautiful life.”
Great post, thanks for sharing.
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Thank you!
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Good luck with the change in your life. I realize some years ago that physical property was not necessary. As I said in my post, I find it hard to believe the hearing test and what is happening in Washington brought back negative childhood memories. As I gotbolfer, I find that things that didn’t stress me when I was younger do now. Hugs Betty
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I don’t cope with stress very well now either, Betty.
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One of your comments disappeared from WordPress. Thank you for the lovely comments, especially in my reviews.
Kato taught himself to get in the chair and he was so please with himself. Love is expression. I am doing better. My eye test shows macular degeneration is starting in my eyes. It is She related.
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Sounds like the perfect plan to me! I might have to mimic this same plan one of these days myself! 😉 Stuff is just stuff, we don’t need it. Can’t take it with us when we leave this earth, so why hold onto it. A legacy of writing is what you’ll leave behind in this life and that’s valuable. A priceless treasure you’ll be able to pass down to many more generations. 🙂
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How nice of you! Stuff IS just stuff and my attachment to it is gone.
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That’s good. 😉
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It sounds like you are stepping into an exciting new life. I wish you well.
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Thank you so much!
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Hi Rosemary! I too am embracing minimalism, a little at a time. I like the idea that space equals opportunity. We also would like to move and having a houseful of “stuff” isn’t going to be a part of that.. I think the whole concept is very freeing, plus I know I need to work on letting go of my attachment to things.. Good luck!
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I wish you so much luck, Kathleen!
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I understand completely the desire to downsize. Boy, do I ever.
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I’ve noticed that The Universe seems to arrange most things in my life. I fought it for many years but when I finally just threw everything to the wind things started to run smoothly and effortlessly. Like you, ‘stuff’ lost its appeal except for a few vitally important items. I want less, need less. It’s been 14 years since I abandoned the struggle and I couldn’t be happier. I hope you find your ‘place’ where joy lives. :o)
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Thank you so much!
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I know what you mean. I’m sitting in this humongous house, feeling the weight of everything on me. I am just waiting for my boys to move out so I can get something just for me. Should a new someone come along, that would be nice but we still would not need huge.
I so hope you do achieve what you want, Rosemary!
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It is all a weight, isn’t it? The older I get, the more I feel it. I finally decided I have to do something about it and I hope, at some point, you can too! When I’m in Florida, in a small place, I feel as free as the wind!
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It so is. My turn will come!
😁
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